Mother’s Day was declared a national holiday by Woodrow Wilson in 1914. His declaration was in large part related to a grassroots practice that had taken hold for five years prior: At a mother’s memorial service, give every mom in attendance a white carnation. In other words, in honor of one mother’s passing, honor all living mothers.
As time went on, the white carnation gave way to all types of flowers, and the dedicated day’s observance burgeoned into all kinds of ways of honoring mom. Take her to brunch; write her a special card; go merry-go-rounding together; do all the chores without being asked – that kind of thing. But in addition to spending time with her loved ones without pressure, what pleases many mom is – dare we say – not spending time with anyone. Having alone time. A good couple of solid hours where no one demands her attention. At. All. A space to regroup and recharge. While most moms traditionally spend Mother’s Day with loved ones, a time-alone slot for mom can be incorporated as part of Mother’s Day. It’s not what all moms want, but it is what many moms want. Just that renowned notion of peace and quiet.
Enter the spa option. At a spa, not only does mom get time for herself, she gets treated by a professional to feel rejuvenated physically and mentally. Spas, for one, offer all kinds of massages – from shiatsu to Swedish to deep tissue to prenatal. Spas also provide facials, and waxes, and sauna rooms. Some even offer esthetic treatments over a few sessions, such as Botox, Juvederm, laser rejuvenation and body sculpting. The idea behind spa treatments is that they are not only treatments, they are treats. They are ways that mom feels special on a day dedicated to her main heartfelt role in life – or any day for that matter.
So moms, how can you ensure you get that alone-time slot treatment on Mother’s Day? Well, by stating that’s what you want. Even if you don’t want the spa, you could do other activities for “you time.” For example, going for retail therapy by heading to the mall, taking a long run or a heading to the gym, or staying home and delving into a novel. As long as you get your time. Alone. No one bothering you. When planning “you time” during Mother’s Day, it shows how integral the idea of balance is to mothers – if we do too much for and with others, we lose sight of ourselves. Therefore, allow Mother’s Day to be a prime example of balance if you need it: Be with those you love, and take time out for just you, as well. Happy Mother’s Day!